With this ring …

Saturday, March 17, 2007 at 11:06 am (marriage)

Oh, the comfort …
    the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person.
Having neither to weigh thought nor measure words,
    but pouring them all out just as they are,
    chaff and grain together,
Certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them,
    keep what is worth keeping and,
    with a breath of kindness,
Blow the rest away.
        (anonymous)

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Nearly ten years after I popped the question, MaryP has finally reached a decision.

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I promise to allow you to be yourself
    and to have convictions of your own.
I promise that the more you are yourself,
    the more I will love and cherish you,
    just as you are.

I promise to respect your need for autonomy
    To allow you spaces in your life
    That are your very own.
I also promise to respond to your need for intimacy
    To give myself to you,
    wholly and unconditionally,
    when you desire togetherness.

12 Comments

  1. JewishAtheist said,

    Congrats! Here’s to perseverance! :-)

  2. aaron said,

    A big Woo Hoo and a hearty congratulations to both of you!

  3. Simen said,

    Ten years…you sure don’t rush things. Congratulations!

  4. Peter said,

    From what I know of the woman, which is solely internet based, you got yourself a wise one.
    Congrats and to a happy future.

  5. Ozymandias said,

    Congratulations.

  6. juggling mother said,

    Congrats.

    It’s a good excuse for a party – which is always nice:-)

  7. Mary P said,

    And so far, none of our family and friends has said either, “It’s about time!!!”, or, “Why bother?” They’re tactful and kind, our families…

    To everything there is a season. I guess it was just finally the right one for this.

  8. Bill said,

    Mary P. We have known you as a commited couple for more than 10 years. Whatever decision you make is up to you. We understand why you would hesitate to remarry we understand why you might want to marry. We hope you do what you want, when you want, and we are happy for you whatever you choose to do. The only reason someone might say “it’s about time” is because we have always known that married or not you were right for each other from the start, but knowing where you both were coming from we would never say it. Commitment is marriage not the ring the paper the words or any othe social custom. Does that make sense?

    Congratulations Again.

  9. Stephen said,

    Thanks, everyone!

  10. Michael (a.k.a. Snaars) said,

    Congratulations to the lucky couple!

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